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"The Top 5 Signs That He May Be Cheating...And the Easy, No-Risk Ways You Can Catch Him in His Lie"

Dear Friend,

Hi, I'm Emerson Bailey, author of the book "Why Is He Cheating?". Let me ask you something...

You know the well-worn phrase, "I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy", right?

Well if you're like me, that's how you feel about finding out that your significant other, the person you've dedicated YEARS of your life and your SOUL to, is cheating on you.

That's news so awful, you wouldn't wish it on your worst enemy.

It turns your whole world completely upside down. And even though it will eventually right itself, it will never look and feel quite the same as it used to, before your trust was betrayed.

But hold on a second - that's when you KNOW he's cheated on you. SUSPECTING your man is cheating is no picnic either, is it?

Of course not. NOT knowing brings stress and fear. Anger. It quickly becomes the "800 lb. gorilla in the room" of an otherwise serene life.

Trying to feel relaxed and happy when you think your man is cheating on you is like trying to feel relaxed and happy when you're camping and a pack of hungry wolves has just surrounded your tent. It's not going to happen.

And it's not supposed to. You're supposed to feel alarmed and anxious. You crave answers. You want your life back again. You want HIM back again. And finally, you get to the point where it's time to get busy.

But busy doing WHAT?

A lot of the typical things women do when they finally decide to get busy finding out are doomed to failure.

They will quite simply fall flat on their face and accomplish nothing. In fact, some of them can even make a bad situation worse.

Here's a taste:

You try checking his cell phone for names you don't recognize.

By all means, go ahead and check. But I'd be very surprised if this got you anywhere. There are two problems.

First, people use cell phones to make all sorts of calls. I practically guarantee you that you'll find names and numbers you don't recognize, and every one of them could be benign and meaningless.

Second, if your man is in a significant "other"relationship, you should expect a little more savvy on his part than just leaving 50 calls to a girl named "Brandi" on his phone.

You try asking his friends or coworkers if they know anything.

A noble pursuit, to be sure. Again, there are two problems with this approach: cluelessness and loyalty.

Trust me, it's not only possible but highly likely even your man's best friend would have NO CLUE about what he's really up to. Most times, men simply don't "go there" with each other when they hang out.

Plus, when men hang out with each other, they aren't in the habit of flowing over with praise about their wife anyway; so after you ask this friend, or brother, watch as he racks his brain, checking the corners of his mental cupboards for something useful to say.

That's cluelessness, but expect loyalty as well.

This is because NOBODY wants the job of letting you know what's going on.

This friend or family member is thinking, "When is he going to fess up to what's he's doing? I'M not going to be the one to make her cry. It's HIS mess. Let him tell her.

Why doesn't he already?..." And so on.

Believe me, it's not about any contempt for you that friends and family would let themselves become complicit in the ruse. It's just human nature.

You slowly stew and get more and more resentful. You quietly "punish" him with this behavior, hoping he'll snap out of it.

Nothing could be more natural than this response to suspicion of cheating. After all, it hurts, and you don't deserve this one bit.

If you have any passive-aggressive tendencies at all in your personality, they'll probably come out here: If you normally do laundry, you'll let it go several extra days. If you ask him to do something around the house, you'll have an extra short fuse with him as he takes his sweet time getting it done.

You withhold your true feelings and thoughts from him, getting more business-like. You might doll yourself up a little bit more than usual, but rather than sitting on his lap before work and sharing a joke, it's a curt "gotta be somewhere" and you're out the door. 

You're probably thinking, "This'll teach him, he's got a good thing going and he better shape up." But the sad thing is, this usually has the exact OPPOSITE effect from what you intended.

When the mind of a man sees a woman treating him like he's a total jerk, he doesn't engage. He DISENGAGES. Unplugs. He thinks to himself, "It's impossible to make this woman happy! Why even try?"

You try confronting him.

Actually, I'm in favor of this action. By all means, bring it up directly. Where the problem comes in with confrontation is the WAY in which it is almost always done.

You approach your man after he gets home from work, you tell him he's acting really weird, you want to know if he's having an affair.

He stares at you for a few seconds in silence before he reacts.

And all you get from him is frustration, rage, incredulousness, and then the attacks:

"You're insane.

Nosey.

Ridiculous.

If you could only see yourself.

I'll be at the bar if anyone calls."

You've just been stonewalled. You're left not knowing anything more than you did an hour ago, but your relationship is now in crisis mode.

You check his car for the proverbial panties.

What the heck, right? Guys like souvenirs, don't they? Again as before, I don't necessarily condemn this action. By all means, try.

But consider yourself relatively unique if you actually find anything in the glove compartment, under the seat, stuffed in the arm rest. (While you're in there, what's FAR better to look for, by the way, are things like lipsticks, flower petals, pieces of wrapping paper.)

I'm assuming your man is intelligent and thoughtful enough to get rid of truly obvious signs of his adultery.

You go into denial mode.

Frustrated and feeling totally alone, it's not at all unusual for you to begin to give up at this point. You haven't really found anything. Maybe he's not cheating, maybe he's just a jerk lately.

Or maybe you can't take the thought of what he'll call you and think about you the next time he catches you snooping around his stuff. There's just no good way to find out, short of hiring one of those private investigators you've seen on TV.

Anyway, you have lots of friends and family who know your man, surely once one of them witnesses something undeniable, they'll grab the first phone they see and call you, right?

Think again.

True, it does happen and it may happen for you.

But don't bet on it. What makes this difficult situation even harder is how alone you truly are. The fact is, most spouses have only one person they can rely on to help them find out the truth:

THEMSELVES.

That's right. YOU can do this. If you know WHAT TO LOOK FOR, WHAT TO SAY, HOW TO ACT, you can figure out EXACTLY what's going on.

I have spent the last several years doing research and conducting interviews of not only the betrayed, but the betrayers as well.

I'm a guy, and most of the folks I talked to didn't know me - I found them through Craigslist and other such venues. What this means is that I got the simple, brutal, unedited truth - the WHATS, HOWS AND WHYS of countless marital affairs.

And believe me, a very clear pattern emerged.

• It became evident that the VAST MAJORITY of all discovered affairs are revealed due to DIRECT INVESTIGATION BY THE BETRAYED SPOUSE.

• There are some HIGHLY INDICATIVE SIGNS OF CHEATING that you can discover with minimal effort.

Here's a sample of a just few of these low-key ways of discovering he's cheating:

1. YOUR INTUITION TELLS YOU SOMETHING'S UP.

Yes, the first place to look is inward. It turns out your own feelings are an excellent place to start. In fact, get this: Numerous clinical studies have been done on this, and the results described by psychologists clearly indicate that if you are a betrayed spouse, you may have SUBLIMINAL KNOWLEDGE  of the affair.

In other words, your intuition, or gut, is already telling you something is wrong. In fact, according to these psychologists, in most cases you'll even guess who the third party is, right off the bat!

This shouldn't be so surprising in retrospect, since over 50% of the time your cheating man is seeing someone that YOU KNOW TOO.

So definitely give this a try. For this exercise, I suggest you get some "alone time"; maybe a park nearby, maybe taking a drive in the hills or a walk on the beach, or just meditating in a quiet place in your home. First quiet your mind, then listen to it.

2. HE'S LOOKING GOOD LATELY.

Is your man buying new clothes for no particular reason? Have you noticed he's been upgrading his underwear and socks? Or maybe he's getting his haircut on a more regular basis and all without any nagging on your part, possibly using gel in his hair all of a sudden. He just bought some new sunglasses. He finally gave up that coat with the tear in it and got himself something really sharp.

Upgrading the daily appearance is definitely a sign that SOMETHING out there in his life has become important to him.

Beyond preening, there's another biggie giveaway: physical fitness.

Perhaps he's working out more, dieting and losing pounds. Crucially, if there's something up, he won't be telling you he's dieting, but he's definitely getting noticeably more tone. True, it could be a kind of modesty on his part, but maybe he's trying to keep it all on the down-low.

Pay special attention to any purchases you can gain awareness of which are made directly before a business trip. That's when he'll want to get that special "seduction" shirt to wear on his "date" with the other woman.

3. HE NO LONGER LIKES BEING SURPRISED AT HOME OR WORK.

This is another potent sign. It's especially informative if you stop by his place of work sometimes, but not very often. Maybe it's been a few months. Well, now's a good time.

Have an excuse, like being in the neighborhood and wanting to take him out for coffee, or wanting to check in on a friend at work who's been struggling with health problems, be creative and have a real, legitimate reason.

The point isn't to catch him doing anything so much as to gauge his reaction to you being in his domain. 

Alternatively, does your man work from home or telecommute? He may have ample opportunity to not only find a woman to have an affair with online, but he has the house all to himself all day to make phone calls or worse...have her over.

Pop in for lunch sometime, or come home early from work. Does he act nervous, annoyed, angry? You may have surprised him and maybe his first worried thought might be, "Are you sick, did you get fired, are you ok?" But past that, he should be happy to see you.

If he's not, there's reason to be suspicious.

4. HE HAS A LONG-DISTANCE CALLING CARD FOR NO REASON YOU'RE AWARE OF. 

At a discrete moment, grab his wallet and look for a prepaid calling card.

The reason: he wants to make calls to his lover without you being able to track it. If he calls using a calling card, a) the woman can't tell with caller ID where he is calling from and b) it never shows up on his home phone account or work account, because he calls an 800 number.

Ask him about this card and see what he says. Don't be surprised if he has a plausible but unsatisfactory answer, like, "I can't always get good cell phone reception on business trips and I need to use the hotel phone."

He might say that, or he may not have a good answer and may get defensive. A guarded, hesitant reaction is not unlikely, since men rarely think ahead to come up with a believable excuse for their suspicious behavior.

5. HE'S ON THE INTERNET IN PRIVATE.

In today's hectic world, a married couple's time together is precious, given all our responsibilities. But maybe your man doesn't see it as all that precious?

Maybe he shuts himself off in the home office or den with a laptop, and you don't hear from him for hours.

He could be spending his time on the World Wide Web's seedier side. If you are inclined toward sexual adventure, the Internet not only provides access to a multitude of likeminded people, it in effect encourages fantasy and lack of inhibition.

The Internet is thus becoming THE major conduit for cheaters and their affairs.

Internet junkies are typically pretty savvy with covering their tracks, but it's somewhat labor intensive, clearing folders and files all the time. Keep returning periodically to the computer he uses and check the history and cookie folders, investigating any web links or URLs you don't recognize. He's bound to trip up sooner or later.

These are highly effective ways to tell if your man is cheating on you, and they aren't expensive or all that time consuming to do.

If your man is doing one of these things, does that mean he's cheating?

No.

There's LOTS more signs you need to know about.

No one sign by itself signals much of anything.

But two, three or more signs linked together are starting to build a very compelling case that something is going on.

In fact, there are 14 other crucial signs you need to look out for beyond the five I've laid out for you above. In my e-book, "Why Is He Cheating?",

I dedicate a whole chapter to going over all 19 of them in detail.

But those are just the SIGNS of a man being a cheater. There's much, much more to the picture that you need to know. Beyond just FINDING OUT, "Why Is He Cheating?" can help you:

• DISCOVER the Five Types of Cheaters: What they're after, how they operate, and how they feel about YOU.
• DETERMINE which Cheater Type your man is most likely to be.
• UNDERSTAND the major reasons WHY men cheat on perfectly good women.
• PROBE the inner psyche of your man, so you can see the world through HIS eyes.
• CALCULATE the chances for reconciliation and repair.
• LEARN how to make sure crucial conversations and dialogues with your man stay ON TRACK and PRODUCTIVE.
• STAY SANE, in what is arguably one of the toughest things you can face!

You DON'T have to be alone through this.

You can have "Why Is He Cheating?" to guide you through.

Don't suffer in silence and sit around worrying needlessly about what's happening with your relationship. You owe it to yourself to GET THE TRUTH from your man, and my eBook can help you do that.

     You'll know what to look for, how to approach a conversation about your suspicions, and whether or not it's even worth trying to work it out or not IF he is cheating.

     And if you determine that your suspicions are just that...mere suspicions with no basis...then you'll have learned valuable insights into WHY men stay faithful or why they stray, and what you can do to ensure that your relationship can stand the test of time and temptations.

     Order my eBook today and receive it by e-mail in minutes, so you can finally start to feel IN CONTROL and PRO-ACTIVE about what's going on in your relationship.

     Let me know what you find out, and how my book has helped you uncover the truth about what's happening in your relationship. May you find the inner strength to deal with whatever happens, and realize peace in your heart no matter what.

Your friend,

Emerson Bailey

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