In an article from Time Magazine online, it claims that men with lower voice pitches and women with higher ones are deemed more attractive by the opposite sex and are probably more likely to cheat, due to increased levels of estrogen or testosterone in their bodies. Increased hormone levels, it claims, makes the person have a higher sex drive, and therefore be more likely to stray if they’re not getting enough (or the right kind) of sex at home.
I think this article took an arbitrary symptom of high hormone levels, such as voice pitch, and used it to make the headline more provocative. Why not say that men who have more chest hair and more pronounced cheek bones and brows (another indicator or high testosterone) are also more prone to cheating? Why not just say that men who are seen as more attractive by the opposite sex are more likely to cheat, simply because they have more opportunity? If a man is attractive, and he’s having relationship troubles, he’s more vulnerable to attention from female co-workers and friends. I’ve known women who were almost laying in wait for a man they knew to start complaining about his relationship, so they could step in and become his shoulder to cry on — and his outlet for his sexual urges.
If a man has low testosterone, and therefore lacks the lower voice, the chiseled features, the hairier body, not only will he not consider sex as important as a man with high testosterone, he will not trigger that sex appeal in women. He’ll look weaker, more effeminate, softer, more like a “buddy” than a potential sexual partner. He’ll be more interested in work and in connecting emotionally with his partner than servicing his carnal needs.
When I think of the men I know who have cheated, I agree that for the most part, their physical features were in the category of more masculine. The men who I thought of as more “geeky” or unattractive were more likely to agonize over their troubled relationships rather than seek comfort in another woman’s arms. But it’s not always true. It’s also a matter of genetics and upbringing and just…well, personal values. It’s a matter of what the man’s personal love history is, and whether he has issues with ego and self-esteem.
In my eBook, “Why Is He Cheating” I explain what factors go into making a man suseptible to cheating, including things like sexual addiction, fantasy, and history.
What do you think? Is a man with a lower voice pitch more prone to cheating? Does your cheating man have a low voice? Does your faithful man have one? Let me know by commenting below.