The best way to affair-proof your relationship or marriage is to improve the COMMUNICATION between you and your man. It's the one thing that every secure relationship has: a strong emotional bond and knowing what's being said and felt beneath the surface.

By building on this kind of connection, couples can express their NEEDS and VALUES in an unthreatening and loving way. Remember what I wrote about the #1 reason most people cheat: because of an unmet need they're not communicating to each other (for whatever reason)s.

Relationships are definately two-way streets, where both partners have to be willing to open up and express how and what they're feeling. You can't control whether or not your man is a good communicator. But you CAN work on improving the way you talk and react to him, so that he will feel a sense of "easiness" about being with you — and will feel COMPELLED to share his feelings and needs.

STOP and THINK before you make any drastic moves. Learn how to approach the situation in a calm, reasonable manner. The best case scenario is that you'll learn something about your man and your relationship, and maybe find a way to work things out...